Yep. Iâ€™m talking purging. Not the â€œI ate too much chocolateâ€”again! â€”kind of purging, or the toilet hugging after-effects of drinking that third Pomegranate Cosmo on girlâ€™s night out kind of purging. The purging to which I refer is about letting go of what holds us back.
My friend and integrative healing therapy coach, Jeanne Daniels, (www.jeannedaniels.com), told me I should see everything as a sign that Iâ€™m on the right path. It has become a playful way of pushing myself to look for the positive in all situations.
Â Sometimes those signs/messages come rather mystically
The other night I dreamt I was in the living room of my grandmotherâ€™s house. As a child I spent countless hours there, and in my dream the details of that room were clear, vibrant, and familiar. I felt at home. And then, unexpectedly, a huge elephant lumbered by the window; so huge, in fact, that it cast the room into shadow.
I noted two of my family members riding the elephant as another led it around the house. Mentally slapping myself on the head, I thought, â€œWhy do I keep forgetting this is the time of day they exercise the elephant?â€
I ran to the next window and yelled out, â€œHello Kevin!â€ Somehow I needed to be part of the grandeur of elephant exercise, and felt left out. Again. The elephant, and my family, kept walking away. They never acknowledged my greeting, or me.
One moment I was excited about seeing an elephant, and in the next moment I felt awkward because I didnâ€™t remember the elephantâ€™s name. “Kevin” just didnâ€™t sound right, and I hoped I hadnâ€™t insulted him. Elephants are sensitive and rather psychic.
Then I woke up. I felt oddly happyâ€”Iâ€™d never dreamt about an elephant at Grandmaâ€™s house beforeâ€”and yet wondered what it meant. What was the sign I was suppose to see?
I Googled â€œelephants as spirit animalsâ€ and found this:
To see an elephant in your dream indicates that you need to be more patient or more understanding of others. Or perhaps there is a memory that you are holding on to for too long. You need to let go of the past.
There was that “letting â€“go of” thing again. Purge. But what? What past person, event or events, are holding me hostage? IÂ don’t have an answer.
Â Then there are signs that are in-your-face direct:
Today I received a free online video targeting secrets to success. The message? In order to open ourselves up, to create space for joy, we have to get rid of what no longer serves us. Leonie Dawsonâ€™s message was specifically directed, on this day, at relationships. She asked that the viewer write down five people who he or she are constantly in contact with, and then objectively decide if those people uplift, support, stifle, or degrade.
She went on to say if you have people holding you down or back, maybe itâ€™s time to let go of those relationships. Maybe itâ€™s time to find people who support your goals and dreams and dwell in that energy. In other words, purge negative people and invite healthy associations.
I ticked down the list of people who most often spend time with me and was pleased to noteÂ each of them add to my life. I used to have people that made me feel bad about who I was, or what I did or wanted to do, but they have either moved on or have faded away. Okay, in some cases I pushed them away, which was incredibly difficult, but oh so necessary for my wellbeing.
So the sign reading continues. The ones Iâ€™m clever enough, or aware enough, to catch affirm my growth and challenge me to change behaviors that distract me from being my best self. Itâ€™s a process. Thank you, Jeanne!
How about you? What might you need to purge to bring more joy into your life? Leave a response and let’s talk about it.
(If you want to see the aforementioned video just be aware thatÂ Leonie Dawson is quirky. Quirky, but radiant, in her messages and truth.)