I have recently been asked to sit in on a panel of current and former students at Metropolitan State University. The theme is “Students Speak their Minds on Critical Thinking and How to Develop It.” Each of us will give a ten minute presentation on what we feel critical thinking means as a whole, but within the educational system in particular. Yikes! Me and public speaking are about as cohesive as Superman and Kryptonite.
As I pull together material, I came across an essay I wrote during my undergrad period. Forgive the length. If you chose to read the whole of it, I would love to hear your thoughts. How was/is your educational experience as a woman? What did you actually learn, between the lines, so to speak? And, with that, here is the essay for your consideration:
Being Educated, An Illusive Label
By Gail Gates
When I was a child I discovered the joys of printing the alphabet on wide-ruled, unbleached paper that was so cheaply made it contained bits of wood that would catch my pencil lead and cause my carefully formed letters to go astray. I learned that if I practiced making the letters reach the appropriate lines on the paper -solid lines for capital letters; dashed lines for lower case letters – my teacher would be pleased, and I would get a gold star to show my parents. I learned conformity was good.
As the letters began to stack together and form words, I learned that Dick and Jane played with a red ball and that their dog, Spot, could run. The students able to read without making mistakes were placed in the â€œAâ€ group and were elevated above the â€œBâ€ group, who had to stay inside for part of recess as a punishment. I learned to fear mistakes.
As grade school progressed I took an interest in drawing pictures. For my third grade parent-teacher conference I created a sketch of my family and proudly hung it on the blackboard. It was all I could do to wait for my parents to visit the classroom and witness my creative brilliance. Expecting praise, and wanting recognition of my budding skills, I was crushed when my father said, â€œWhy did you get an â€œAâ€ for that? Teeth do not look the way you drew them!â€ I learned being creative could be painful if you see things differently than others.
As I entered junior high I was thrown into a new mix of students because the rural school I had been attending was destroyed by fire. Hitting puberty and losing my student identity in one fell swoop left me desperate to understand the revised rules. On my first day of class a fellow student explained who liked who, what clothing was considered acceptable, which students were undesirable, which students had teachers for parents, and how I might, or might not, fit into the scheme of things. I had never experience leaving my homeroom to attend classes and felt like a lost, neon colored, lamb. I followed the students from location to location, but felt like all eyes were upon the new kid awash in Technicolor probation. Mentally I vowed I would learn to navigate the school ASAP so I could be a leader and not a follower. I learned to blend until I could lead.
High school brought the female traumas of dating, emerging poor body image, and gender bias. Classroom learning happened by default. I recall taking a class in car maintenance because I thought it would be useful to learn how to change the oil, replace a flat tire, and have a clue what was under the hood. There was one other girl in the class. She and I were told to stay out of the way as the boys worked on the cars. At times the teacher would give us a wink, hand us money, and ask that we busy ourselves by buying donuts for the boys. By the end of the semester we had to earn a grade and test out on our learned mechanical skills. The teacher decided it would be best if the other girl and I worked together to figure out why the car would not start. It took us less than sixty seconds to see the gas gauge showed an empty tank. We earned an â€œA.â€
Business class was designed to teach studentsâ€”i.e. femalesâ€”how to become proficient at using adding machines, typewriters, and basic bookkeeping principles. The teacher, Mr. Stadeen, had a nasty habit of looking over the shoulders of the well-endowed students and down their blouses. When we complained to the administration about the leering, we received shrugs and smiles. As it turned out Mr. Stadeen was just being a rascal. Wink, wink. I learned being a female was about appearances and not about being taken seriously.
High school graduation meant going out on my own. After working a year as a waitress, I was accepted into St. Cloud State University. I had no idea what I was doing, just a fuzzy concept that this would make me employable at a potentially higher pay range. My parents had not attended college, my oldest brother had left home to join a religious commune, my next oldest brother had joined the army, and here I was about to dive in completely over my head. I met with an overburdened advisor that spat out a few suggestions before closing the door to his office so that he could steal a few moments of peace. Thus armed for the future, I attended classes without a clue of where I was going, or why. Getting decent grades was a corridor to graduation; not a road to an expanded world.
I recall going home to visit my parents on break and sharing a classroom discussion. My parents shook their heads in dismay, and told me it was ridiculous and dangerous to expose myself to radical thinking. (I was sharing teachings from Plato and Aristotle.) I learned I could leave home, but I could not return with vestiges of the outside world.
Here I sit thirty years later, keyboarding on a home computer not even imagined when I was a college student circa the 1970â€™s. The question before me, the one Iâ€™m struggling to discern, is â€œWhat is an educated person?â€
My highlighted educational moments from the past speak to an ongoing process that has shaped who I am today, but ignore the much bigger, brighter, side of who I want to become. I cannot conceive of the time that I will not fall asleep with a book in my hands for I have an unquenchable thirst to discover. I weeded out relationships that held me down, and have flourished as a result. Other than a few family members that remain steadfast in the â€œfear of changeâ€ camp, I am now surrounded with people that uplift and encourage me even as they cultivate and tend their own educational growth.
The words â€œbeing an educated personâ€ sound like a finished product. From the moment I took a pencil in hand, furrowed my brow, and printed the alphabet on grainy beige paper, I have never ignored the power of discovery. Just as learning to write the alphabet led to reading, and reading led to a voracious book habit; learning to ask questions has led to a lifetime of seeking answers. Along the way I have discovered, and continue to discover:
â€¢ I do not have to conform
â€¢ I work at no longer fearing mistakes because they are the best ways to learn
â€¢ I must allow my creative needs to flow and not be restricted by damming, or damning, criticism (from myself or others)
â€¢ I can allow my light to shine by being who I am instead of hiding in a crowd
â€¢ I welcome and embrace the power of being a woman instead of feeling subservient
â€¢ And, I will not be silent when I feel impassioned by the wisdom of great minds.
What is an educated person?
I am still learning.
Good golly, Miss Molly (Gail), was there EVER a time when you weren’t wise beyond your years. I bathe in your wisdom, and feel warmed and comforted by it. You provide a model I yearn to follow and, I am reminded yet again, what an honor it is to be your friend. Thank you!