My daughter is getting married in the fall. Lace is pretty. Satin is divine. Flowers, music, food, and a venue to hold it all as guests mingle and toast and dance. Goals and lists, expectations versus desires. Love is the glue that creates this collage of moments, and Iâ€™m the mom-of-the-bride witnessing it all.
Some moms are extremely involved with the wedding planning either by choice, invitation, or demand. Iâ€™d like to think Iâ€™m somewhere on the â€œwant to be involved, but only as much as my daughter and her fiancÃ© want me involvedâ€ spectrum. So far, they havenâ€™t asked for much help.
My daughter is lovingly described as a binder-girl. She borders on giddy when tasked to create spreadsheets. Her fiancÃ© is a thoughtful creative. Between them good things happen, and mountains move. In addition, both have decided they want the nuptials to be about their union (What? Thatâ€™s crazy talk!) and not about the status of spending excessive amounts of money to appease the Jonesâ€™s. Iâ€™m proud of them for getting the priority right.
The wedding will be small and intimate. The setting? A friendâ€™s lovely garden with a backup tent incase of inclement weather. There will be a place for dancing in the yard, but a place to throw a game of horseshoes as well.
I asked my daughter if she intended to change out of her wedding dress to participate in yard games.
â€œNo, why do you ask?â€ she said. Thatâ€™s my girl, and the best part of my day.
P.S. Any suggestions for a beautiful wedding dress that can do double-duty as â€œuser-friendlyâ€ will be welcomed! For that matter, so will any thoughts on mother-of-the- bride dresses.