Women's Issues Midlife And Beyond
Hi Beloved Readers, It’s a super busy week for me so rather than not post a blog I went into the archives and decided to re-post one that contains: Sex. Sort of. Well not really. A nervous husband. A deep psychological study of why women like sex toys and sex shops.* When Our Naughty Bits Need Attention: The Anticipation Of… Read More
 Here’s the link: http://www.ourbetterhalf.net/episode-24.html I’ve come to the conclusion that women, particularly women in the second half of life, have questions about sex. –They want to know what other women are experiencing now that midlife is imposing changes to the physical, mental, and sexual aspects of gett’n some. –They want to know whom they can trust to ask those questions… Read More
Of late, when I hang out with women, the topic of my blogs comes up. Particularly the blogs on hysteria and vibrators. The women snicker, elbow jab each other, and give knowing looks. But there are also questions. Lots of questions. So I thought I would include a little more information straight from Rachel Maines, author of The Technology of… Read More
The only reason I would take up jogging is so that I could hear heavy breathing again. –Erma Bombeck It’s Time To Uncross Those Lady-like Legs And Do What You Want When I started to put together this blog, I went online to look for a joke about midlife women and sex. I have a good sense of humor and… Read More
Female Sexual Dysfunction, Technology, and Older Women’s Self-Esteem Erosion “Some guys assume that they made this one girl orgasm by doing this one thing and now they do it to every woman they get with. If it doesn’t work on you, then something about you must be broken.” Author: Roberto Hogue Physical and Sexual Insecurities In the United States, cultural… Read More
“So I’m licking jelly off my boyfriend and all of a sudden, I’m thinking, ‘Oh my God, I’m turning into my mother.’” –Sarah Silverman Sexual Equality Baby Boomer and other older women are experiencing their postmenopausal years with a confusing accumulation of social dictates. For decades, they have been patriarchally conditioned on the definition of a sexually appropriate woman. For… Read More
“In my sex fantasy, nobody ever loves me for my mind.” —Nora Ephron Electricity And Home Market Vibrators Towards the end of the nineteenth century, electricity was reaching affluent urban dwellings and women succumbed to marketing that touted the wonders of domestic technologies. Yes, indeed. Women were about to take matters into their hands so to speak. Believing household chores… Read More
“You know that look women get when they want sex? …Me neither.” –Steve Martin A Female Sexual Disease From a practical stance, labeling Hysteria as a female sexual disease took a lot of pressure off of clueless men. If a woman was frustrated by a lack of orgasm, it was her fault and not the “wham, bam, thank you ma’am  Read More
A Brief History of Hysteria and its Implications for Women “When these symptoms indicate, we think it is necessary to ask a midwife to assist, so that she can massage the genitalia with one finger inside, using oil of lilies, musk root, crocus, or something similar. And in this way, the afflicted woman can be aroused to the paroxysm. This… Read More
Judy, age 73, sipped her Brandy Old Fashioned and occasionally looked at me from beneath lowered mascaraed lashes. Twirling the amber liquid until the ice cubes clattered in protest, she gave a wistful smile and continued with her story. “So, Bonnie and I were looking out the hotel window—just checking on the view, you know?—and we see this man standing… Read More
An acquaintance of mine–I won’t mention your name Matt–suggested I write a piece about midlife sex and kegel exercises. I suspect his young-man brain explodes when he thinks about creaky women in midlife actually wanting sex, let alone performing wanton acts in the bedroom or anywhere else the notion leads (A Midlife Woman’s Trip To A Sex Shop). While I’m not… Read More
“An older woman looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women or drag queens. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, an older woman is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Her libido’s stronger, her fear of pregnancy gone. Her experience of lovemaking is honed and reciprocal and she’s lived long enough to know… Read More
“Sex at age ninety is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.†~George Burns Margaret is another example of an older woman who spent much of her adult life without a partner. She found love and marriage for the first time when she was forty years old. Margaret told me that once she laid eyes on Mike at a… Read More
“To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, but the devil slapped on the genitals.†~Don Schrader Cats in Heat My grandmother thought pretty much everything humans did was a sin, particularly if gratification was involved. Had enough to eat? Sin. Have money? Sin. Saying, “I’m proud of the job I… Read More
As a Baby Boomer woman with her landing gear in place to skid and bump onto the tarmac of the considered old, I’m fascinated how loneliness and sexual satisfaction mingle at this stage of life. Rachel Maines’ book, Technology of Orgasm, (Maines, 1999) gave me not only a historical view of technology as a sexual device, but on the culturally approved… Read More
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